Archive for November, 2008
What happens when NLP not only fails to live up to it’s promises, but actually starts making you crazy?
Hint: If you still aren’t satisfied with NLP, I do have a solution. Here’s the how and why.
Several years ago, when I decided to put out a bunch of really weird and obtuse NLP products, I had a great idea. Why not offer to make buyers a custom product, videos or audio, just to get some ideas as to what people want, that isn’t out on the market place.
The idea was simple. Put up an ad on Ebay, tell people that for $100 to $200 bucks, I will create a custom NLP product for them. So I would get paid to develop a product, and then possibly use the ideas to generate new products to sell to the masses. Makes sense right?
Get paid to develop a product and do market research. It was a NO Brainer!
Here’s the kicker: I thought I would be getting NLP beginners, asking me for what was missing in their trainings or missing in the beginner level products they bought. What happened shocked and surprised me.
Almost everyone who replied to those ads, was already advanced in NLP. They had taken multiple trainings, they were well versed in NLP, and had the certificates to prove it. They also had some rather insteresting problems too, that proved they had been around for a while too.
That’s when my NLP journey took another very interesting twist, when I realized how messed up so many of these NLP long termers were. Because if they were going off the deep end…
Here are the problems they had, real quick. Let me know if they seem familiar.
1. Control issues. Most of them had very interesting control issues. They had good solid NLP skills, that would influence behavior and perception, yet their minds and lives were literally out of control. They were more compulsive and frustrated than ever before.
2. Manipulation issues. Most of them were very concerned about being manipulated. Even when we talked on the phone to develop their product, they would tell me that they could tell where I was “taking them” and what I was trying to do to them. Weird, I wasn’t doing anything, but “market research” and listening to them to findo ut exactly what they wanted in their product. As an interesting side note, they also said that since taking NLP training, they noticed that people were much more manipulative than they thought before they got into NLP.
3. Most of them were NEVER able to be satisfied. The advanced NLP guys never seemed able to be satisfied. Where the average Joe could meet a girl and have a nice night of dinner - drinks - dancing - etc, the NLP expert would have to keep setting the stage, and using his techniques and tools to make sure that she was having a good time. He couldn’t ever JUST be there with her, or become truly satisfied, because he was still working at making it happen or preventing things from happening with his NLP. He still felt like he had to make her like him.
This is really why I started Honor Coaching back in those days. I had to give them an affordable solution, which would prove to them that I trusted them, and was not manipulating them in anyway. Having them pay me anonymously, what ever they chose was a huge key.
These guys would come to me for something to fix their NLP madness, and the only thing that I found worked was working with them regularly - because they were literally quite “loopy”, while using the skills and insights that I gained from studying with the Native Elders, and modeling them with NLP.
(Ask me sometime how the Buffalo Calf Woman story fits in with this…. it’s very very interesting, and powerful. And life transforming. I thank God everyday for bringing the Elders into my life that have been there for me.)
So now what?
I invite you to do some Honor Coaching. Where you set the fee, and pay me what you can honestly afford to after each session. Get Honor Coaching Details here!
I also invite you to our first ever HRT training in Florida, January 2009. HRT stands for Hostage Rescue Training - And you are the Hostage! It’s three days at a very special sunny location near Tampa Florida, costs just $1,000 and it could be your ticket to freeing yourself from the madness of it all. More details to come. Contact me to register early or for more details.
I invite you to come back even more to life. Stop working so hard, stop trying to control it all. Learn how to invite back into your life something that will not only increase your productivity, but your happiness and peace of mind as well.
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I’m watching a relatively new “nlp expert” go insane. I have the utmost compassion for him, because from what I can tell, going insane does happen to “NLP experts”, and it does happen more often than most people would like to admit.
Because when you use NLP to hack the minds of others, something “weird” happens in your own mind.
Think about it, how many dysfunctional NLP people are out there, compared to the relatively few who are able to genuienly produce, love, and make a difference?
Too much time in NLP is spent trying to “be more clever than”. If you know any NLP experts, you’ll know what I mean. If you don’t know many, that “be more clever than” won’t make a lick of sense to you. There comes a time in many nlp “masters” lives, that they explore being more clever than the next guy. Trying to run the universe. Stop.
What’s the TRUTH about NLP?
Here’s the scooop. NLP started out VERY USEFUL. It was a great method of exploring what else was happening in the process of thinking and observing. Learning how to notice more about your thinking process can be liberating. Trying to “hack” your own process or the thinking process of others can be dangerous. This is when NLP got lost in the woods.
Yo Confused NLP Expert… Want the map to get out of the woods, and back to sanity with NLP?
Don’t put your faith in “techniques” and “methods”. Putting your faith in methods and techniques only puts more of YOUR power, outside of you. You are more amazing and powerful than any technique or method. And that includes techniques designed for healing, seduction, persuasion, etc. All the stuff NLP is known for. USE your NLP observation skills to discover how amazing you can become instead.
Don’t put “the power” outside of you anytime. Don’t bother “seducing her” or “fixing him”. Just focus on NOTICING. Women don’t want seduced or manipulated, they want to be NOTICED and truly appreciated.
On the “fixing them” part of NLP, STOP! The key is not that you need to “fix them” with your “brilliant” use of NLP, the key is to help them notice more about themselves than they previously did. Help them discover more about themselves, while you discover more about yourself. Anytime they notice more about their “process”, they can’t help but become more whole and heal.
And study the meaning of Therapy versus the meaning of Healing. I am a healer who uses “NLP”. My ENTIRE LIFE is very different than the persuaders, the manipulators, the seduction “NLP” based folks. Wake Up BuckWheat!
To the guy who’s losing it, stop trying to be clever, slow down, discover YOUR body…
Open your heart to more love, forget manipulation.
Hugs to you my dear,
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Mr. Twenty Twenty
NLP shows you how to work more effectively, how to control how you feel, how to interpret events and how to communicate successfully
NLP, or to give it its Sunday title - Neuro Linguistic Programming, is a technology and an approach that comes from the study of human excellence. It is highly respected by leading employers and is used successfully in many fields, including business, sports, art, health, education, politics and personal growth.
NLP's communication tools can enable you to..
- Improve your verbal and non-verbal communication with others.
- Deepen your appreciation of your own and others thinking styles.
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- Exchange unwanted habits with desired habits.
- Set goals to fit (and change) your life.
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NLP was developed in the 1970s out of an academic enquiry into how people excel in various fields. The result was the distillation of certain principles and subtle communications structures that can be taught, learned, and applied to any area of your life.
Over the past 30 years since its pioneering days, NLP has undergone, and continues to undergo, considerable refinement. Many of its techniques and principles have passed into common usage under other names and appear to us daily, not only in the classroom and in coaching situations but also in cinema, television, and, of course, business communications ranging from the office to advertising.
If you understand that there may be room for improvement in your communication skills, or if you are not getting what you want out of life, NLP’s tools can enable you to uncover, change or transform and become truly successful.